When an IGMPv3/MLDv2 query is received and we're operating in such mode
then we need to avoid updating group timers if the suppress flag is set.
Also we should update only timers for groups in exclude mode.

v3: add IPv6/MLDv2 support
Signed-off-by: Nikolay Aleksandrov <nikolay@cumulusnetworks.com>
Signed-off-by: Jakub Kicinski <kuba@kernel.org>