When a port got hot-unplugged, when a port was open, any file operation
after the unplugging resulted in a crash. This is fixed by ref-counting
the port structure, and releasing it only when the file is closed.

This splits the unplug operation in two parts: first marks the port
as unavailable, removes all the buffers in the vqs and removes the port
from the per-device list of ports. The second stage, invoked when all
references drop to zero, releases the chardev and frees all other memory.
Signed-off-by: Amit Shah <amit.shah@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Rusty Russell <rusty@rustcorp.com.au>