Speedup DiffNote#active? on discussions, preloading noteables and avoid touching git repository to return diff_refs when possible

- Preloading noteable we share the same noteable instance when more than one 
discussion refers to the same noteable.
- Any other call to that object that is cached in that object will be for any 
discussion.
- In those cases where merge_request_diff has all the sha stored to build a diff_refs get that 
diff_refs using directly those sha instead accessing to the git repository to first get the 
commits and later the sha.