We used to hand out a new generation number even
for already-known handles. This does not seem to
cause problems on Linux, but osxfuse throws errors
to userspace with

        osxfuse: vnode changed generation

showing up in the kernel log.

Introduce a per-handle generation number that stays
constant until the handle is forgotten.

Tested on Linux and MacOS via gocryptfs. Add test for handle map
behavior.

Fixes https://github.com/hanwen/go-fuse/issues/204
See also https://github.com/hanwen/go-fuse/pull/205