Add reference count checking controlled by REFCNT_CHECKING ifdef. The
reference count checking interposes an allocated pointer between the
reference counted struct on a get and frees the pointer on a put.
Accesses after a put cause faults and use after free, missed puts are
caughts as leaks and double puts are double frees.

This checking helped resolve a memory leak and use after free:
https://lore.kernel.org/linux-perf-users/CAP-5=fWZH20L4kv-BwVtGLwR=Em3AOOT+Q4QGivvQuYn5AsPRg@mail.gmail.com/Signed-off-by: Ian Rogers <irogers@google.com>
Cc: Adrian Hunter <adrian.hunter@intel.com>
Cc: Alexey Bayduraev <alexey.v.bayduraev@linux.intel.com>
Cc: Dmitriy Vyukov <dvyukov@google.com>
Cc: Jiri Olsa <jolsa@kernel.org>
Cc: Namhyung Kim <namhyung@kernel.org>
Cc: Riccardo Mancini <rickyman7@gmail.com>
Cc: Stephane Eranian <eranian@google.com>
Cc: Stephen Brennan <stephen.s.brennan@oracle.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/lkml/20230407230405.2931830-4-irogers@google.com
[ Extracted from a larger patch ]
Signed-off-by: Arnaldo Carvalho de Melo <acme@redhat.com>