* Return the promise, so that we can wait.
* `sendContactAddIQ` now returns a promise and doesn't take a callback
* Don't call `destroy` on a contact that's already been removed.

fixes #1033 

Namely:
- Only match messages which start with exactly "/me ".
- Simplify the match, checking a string instead of a complex regex.
- Always remove the first four characters in the case of a match, to not
leave an extra leading space.

Fixes #1188.

This will eventually allow client-side theming support.

This helps languages which use a different typography for the colon,
such as French which has a narrow non-breakable space before it, or
Japanese which uses a full-width colon character.

Otherwise we get `TypeError: Cannot read property 'extend' of undefined`
when attempting to extend `BootstrapModal`.