Move the destruction of the QP and CM_ID to the free path so that the
QP cleanup code doesn't race with the dto_tasklet handling flushed WR.
The QP reference is not needed because we now have a reference for
every WR.

Also add a guard in the SQ and RQ completion handlers to ignore
calls generated by some providers when the QP is destroyed.
Signed-off-by: Tom Tucker <tom@opengridcomputing.com>