Allocating the struct file during alloc_begin creates this strange
asymmetry with IDR, where the FD has two krefs pointing at it during the
pre-commit phase. In particular this makes the abort process for FD very
strange and confusing.

For instance abort currently calls the type's destroy_object twice, and
the fops release once if abort is done. This is very counter intuitive. No
fops should be called until alloc_commit succeeds, and destroy_object
should only ever be called once.

Moving the struct file allocation to the alloc_commit is now simple, as we
already support failure of rdma_alloc_commit_uobject, with all the
required rollback pieces.

This creates an understandable symmetry with IDR and simplifies/fixes the
abort handling for FD types.
Signed-off-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@mellanox.com>