Provide SMP safe locking for all_mddevs list.

the all_mddevs_lock is added to protect all_mddevs and mddev_map.

ITERATE_MDDEV is moved to md.c (it isn't needed elsewhere) and enhanced
to take the lock appropriately and always have a refcount on the object
that is given to the body of the loop.

mddev_find is changed so that the structure is allocated outside a lock,
but test-and-set is done inside the lock.